Oh, I'm sorry. My adopted aunt did the same, except I was fourteen at the time and never really told just what the situation was, and I would never have known if my mother hadn't sat me down when I broke and told me that she had also broken - the details of the end came incidentally, but I would never have known, it's not something you tell a mood-swinging teenager. I still get guilt for not being a better teenager.

But enough introspection. *hugs* for you and your family. Everyone will remember her for what she gave to them, which was very precious, and nothing can take that away from you or from her. I like the tape idea. I don't know whether something like a scented pillow would be any good/allowed - they do them in Culpeppers, full of lavender or 'sweet sleep' herbs or something like that. Might work.